I swear on Bob Marley's grave that I'm going to write a book and I'm going to call it - "I Know What That Means: Seeing Through and Exposing the Bull$&*!" The revised edition of which will feature my patented "What it Really Means" translation dictionary!There's an epidemic in this nation: people not saying what they really mean. Of course I don't want a bunch of little Chris Rocks running around, but PLEASE, everyone, stop trying to use inch thin lies to preserve a false sense of the status quo. In this case, what you don't want us to know that we already know, hurts us worse than if we did know what you really think.
Friends, employers, teachers, coaches, all think they're making things better by giving the other person, who in reality they are rejecting, a false sense of hope, instead of letting them down then and there and letting them move on with their life.
Well maybe this is really a good thing, you say.
Well I say you say nothing.
And it doesn't just annoy the person being lied to, definitely not, no one likes to put on a facade. Both parties know about the facade, it's blatantly there, so they both embrace it and put on a little play of politeness.
"this is just too painful, this playing-it-out"
PARTY A (initial BS'er) - stop BS'ing
PARTY B (person being BS'ed) - learn to see the facade, stop it before it starts, you could save a life, potentially your own.
and remember, "you mustn't walk so that a child may live."
and
"The best TV you've ever seen, where people say the things that they really mean" - The Barry Williams Show